Sibling rivalry in teenager, causes and how to tackle it?

Adolescent part 1 
Sibling rivalry
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Having sibling is the greatest assert and rivalry with them is great fun in long-term as you learn to handle situation, learn problem solving skill, and good memories for later in life. However, sibling can be the source of frustration and make life miserable.

🔴 Cause of sibling rivalry
🔹 Equality... If one child is favor by the parents.
🔹 Personal space
Everyone need independence and if one sibling interfere repeatedly
🔹 Authority
If one sibling want to dominate the family and want to enjoy first, or everything alone.
🔹 Personality
If one sibling is beautiful 
success
If one sibling is more successful like in education
🔹 Friends
If one sibling interfere in other sibling friends

🔴 How to solve it?
speak directly to your sibling.  Let your sibling know you are hurt.
 Eg:  # you and your friends make fun of me and I don't appreciate it. 
# I don, 't like it when you take my things without informing me however, I will be happy to share my things if you take my permission and return it after you finish task.  
If sibling are not willing to hear you, it is better to avoid discussion at that time of moment.
🔹 Time out
It is the best technique in any form of conflict. After all emotions settle down,  it is better to avoid discussion in each problems. Usually problems solve on its own. If you are really hurting or It's repeating frequently, you can have communication at home not in the front of parents.
🔹 Communication
It is always better to hear their point of you once you start conversation. Once your sibling finished his perspective and if you feel the problem can be solved immediately, solve it. If you still feel problem cannot be solved than describe the situation from your point of you.
🔹 Brainstorm the solution
You can ask your sibling for solution and give your solution. Compromise the solution in such way that both are satisfied.
🔹 Family counseling
If still problem is not solved, take help of parents for solution. 

🔴 If you have frequent problems.... 
🔹 Ask few questions in writing..
# Please inform if I hurt you rather than reacting 
# Is there something can I do to make things better
🔹 Set boundary
If you have frequent problems than you can set boundaries like no jokes on each other, mobile time or TV time. But you must also follow the rules.
🔹 Walk away
If you have frequent problems, walk away immediately once conflict starts.
🔹 Family counseling
Having unbiased mediator usually parents is the best one to solve conflict.

 *Dr Ashish Agrawal, Paediatrician and expert in child behavior, education and developmental problems.
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