Education or personality development in children; What is more important and why?

Personality development  Vs Education
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 Request from your baby .... 
▪️ Parents, can I tell you something?
 Give me some time, will you listen to my request?
▪️ I just don't want chocolates, Tution or toys...
Give me some time to chat with you!
▪️ Parents, don't argue in front of me ....
 I'm afraid I'll get away from you!
▪️ Father, Why are you angry with me for watching TV?
But, You spoil the night for it!
▪️ Parents, don't show me fear of punishment ....
 Explain to me the importance of discipline!
 ▪️ Don't impose expectations.  Identify my strengths ....
 Even if I fail, praise the effort, not the results!
▪️ Let me do my work, I will make a mistake today but I will learn tomorrow ....
 If you help me in all my assignments, tell me how I can become self-sufficient!
 # Pay attention to my emotional development along with the studies
                 After reading your baby's request in the above poem, you will notice how humbly the baby is expressing his expectations. How humbly she has explained the shortcomings of parenting to you in a few lines.
🔴 Analysis of child request
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 Today's parents are more focused on education rather than personality development. This type of parenting will generate intellectual but poor personality. To understand, let's think about the past. 50 years ago, going from Nanded to Mumbai (around 500 km) was a big problem. People used to travel for three days.  Today we can get there in an hour.  At that time, if someone said that he could talk to an American person by video calling, he would easily be considered crazy and his family would laugh at him.  Today we can see an American person in front of us and chat.  
Why?
 Because of intellectual development in the last 100 years. Your children are smarter than you, you are smarter than your parents and your parents are smarter than your grandparents. 
 In short...Intelligence is increasing 
🔴 Other side of the coin
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We had all the gadgets to support our life. Still we are seeing a lot of depression, divorce or sucide cases. 
Why? 
Because of decreasing personality development or Emotional quotients. Our grandparents used to stay with their grandparents, our father used to stay with their brothers in the joint family, we are staying with our parents, will our children stay with us? 
 In short...Emotional quotient is decreasing 
🔴 Intelligent quotient Vs Emotional quotient 
In the last 50 years, the goal of all parents is to ensure that their child does not lag behind in education and has a high IQ. It is the desire of every parent to have a more intelligent child. Not only yours but the whole world has neglected to develop the emotions of children under the stress of increasing IQ.
A study was conducted, where they found that an IQ has increased by an average of 35% and EQ has decreased by 50% in the last 50 years. That's why we are seeing lot of materialistic development (IQ) and lot of psychiatric cases (EQ). 
 Remember...Having high IQ is nice, but having high EQ is excellent 
🔴 Goleman's research 
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🔹 Does every uneducated person is unsuccessful or unhappy; Answer is No. 
🔹 Does every educated person is successful or happy; Answer is No
It means both intellectual and Emotional development are necessary for a person's success. In fact, the research shows that IQ can help you to be successful to the extent of 20% only in life. The rest of 80% success depends upon your EQ.
 In short...IQ may get foot into the door and EQ will determine how far you go. 
🔴 Conclusion
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If you think about the above, you will find the answer that it has become very important to pay attention to the personality development and emotions of children.  Along with paying attention towards the development of IQ of your children, they should be nurtured from an early age to increase their EQ also.
 In short...Emotional intelligence will pave the way for a lifetime happiness and success. 
 *Extract from my book: Bal Sanskar (Marathi)* 
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  1. PADGHANE P.N.May 16, 2020 at 12:44 AM

    very infomative for parents to focus on their child devlopment

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